Matty L
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I'm 18 and my sister is 16.
She and I use an instant messenger program called "msn" which most of you may know about.
Over the last few weeks some bad things have been happening.Mainly to do with me and my sister.Anyway long strory cut short, i planted an invisable key logger on the computer she uses to "chat" with her friends.I know its wrong.She went out last night and i looked at the log file and it told me where she was going....out with a lad she loves....she was going out to meet him at the school.Anyway, just checked it again and she must of been back on it when she came home.Turns out he...in my sisters words "put it in me".....he never used protection and in her words again "cum in me" "why didnt you pull out" All this happened at the school (outside)......Is it wrong that i'm finding out all this stuff? I mean, shes a dumb cow......i see it as just looking afder her....she never needs to know i know whats shes upto...so no harm done.
I know, its not right me logging her conversations.....but....she never tells me anything.......Shes worried now shes pregnant......she dont know that i know.
Wot should i do?
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_Allan_
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Give me her number lol 
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Fad
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hmmm similar thing happend to my mate when he read his sisters diary..he ended up putting his bestmate in hospital for fucking his sister
erm dificult one that mate...i'd saylet her learn from her own mistakes and dont say owt as it'll ruin your relationship, just be there for her if she ends up comming to you
[Edited on 23-09-2004 by fadscorsa]
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Bart
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happy days, send her this way!
seriously, well.. i wouldnt ever tell her what you've did, it aint right, and it aint something you can ask to her face either.
thats a tough 1
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S1MON
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quote:
Originally posted by fadscorsa
erm dificult one that mate...i'd saylet her learn from her own mistakes and dont say owt as it'll ruin your relationship, just be there for her if she ends up comming to you
[Edited on 23-09-2004 by fadscorsa]
yer thats the best advice me thinks 
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westsidecorsa
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i checked my birds emails as i though she was cheating, she is now my ex bird
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Fad
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thats the problem now all the young un's are gettin nailed and u never know what your going to get....
oh well 
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Makarus
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Even though your intentions were good what you did was essentially wrong. How would you feel if someone started doing stuff like this to you??
The way i look at things is leave people to make their own mistakes. If they ask for advice then give it but dont start spying on people, listening in on their conversations and getting chat loggers etc because its just plain wrong.
I would definatly advise against letting her know what you know because if you think she tells you nothing now imagine after you tell her that.
Shit like this happens mate, you just need to put confidence in the girl, trust that she is going to deal with it herself, and deal with it in the correct way in her judgement. Things like this have a habit of making people grow up and take count when the realise what the outcome can be, like I say just hope she does the right thing and if not then be there for her.
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Bart
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and what ever you do, dont let her buy a corsa when shes older, if she catches wind of the thread, your up shit creek!
Spying on her AND announcing it on the net
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Red_SXi
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If yuo feel the need to say something, say that you heard it from someone what happened, dont say you logged her MSN
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GT4Brody
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sounds like she needs a morning after pill.
Its kinda wrong spying on ur sis, but then i spose ur only lookin out for her, bit of a tough onbe really.
trouble is, imagine if she is up the duff, the grief that well cause ur family.
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Bart
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if she is up the duff she is up the duff, no point causing a stir.
And nows the time to stop sping, i bet its harder for you to stop it now then before because you wanna make sure she is ok, and not only that find out for sure if she is up the duff or not, if she aint likely to tell you then you will never know.
Dilema!
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James@CCC
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pop a morning after pill into her ceral. sorted
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corsa_godfather
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just leave her alone mate.dont invade her personal privacy.itl annoy u like fuck knowing things u shouldnt know and wantng to say sumthing but u cant
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Ian
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There's enough information available to teenagers these days. If they still choose to have unprotected sex be it on their own heads. The only thing you might want to recommend is a morning after pill, assuming there is still time.
Logging the conversation is wrong, but to be fair its not like a diary where its only private thoughts, a conversation can be read if there are other people by the computer etc. so its not 100% confidential anyway.
Difficult situation but I'd possibly either come completely clean and insist she deals with it, or do absolutely nothing, depending on how close you are to your sister and how you think she's going to react.
She's probably panicing a bit as well by now, your intervention may be quite timely.
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CorsAsh
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Give it a month, look at her for a couple of seconds and say "if I didn't know better, I'd think you were pregnant..."
If she bursts into tears then she most probably is. Also watch out for her rushing to throw up in the toilet first thing...
You can maybe mention you spied on her then...
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Paul_J
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When I opened this I thought you were gonna say you spied on your sister in the shower or something
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Jamescorsa97
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I'm in the same situation with my sister(apart from the spying bit) Shes 18 and shes goign out with a 21 year old and my ma and pa are really worried about her and i swear if i find anythings happenedto her I will be fuming but i can't do a single thing otherwise. You just have to wait mate and don't invade her privacy wait for her to come to you if she wants advice
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CorsAsh
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Maybe she knows you're keepin tabs on her, so is just sayin those things to shit yoou up?
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Will_Sport
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hmmm, bit of a bitch that aint it. like others have said, we all get "sex education" now so she should be well aware. otherwise if she is looking preggers, a quick jap to the stomach and everything will be ok 
[Edited on 24-09-2004 by Will_Sport]
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Bart
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quote:
Originally posted by Jamescorsa97
I'm in the same situation with my sister(apart from the spying bit) Shes 18 and shes goign out with a 21 year old and my ma and pa are really worried about her and i swear if i find anythings happenedto her I will be fuming but i can't do a single thing otherwise.
err.. she's 18 and he's 21, they're adults? slightly different lol.
Im 21 and my misses is 18 (19 next week!) i have my own flat, car etc, she has her own flat car etc, we're both pretty grown up, im sure your sister is perfectly capable of looking after herself surely? 
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chris_uk
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tell her.. 'next time let him do ya arse.. then you cant get pregnant..'
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Bart
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or give him a gobble / knee trembler
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RichR
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my mum and dad av been away so for the past two weeks my sister and her BF ( my estranged best mate from b4 they got 2gether ) have eben sharing the same room - Ive got no problem with it at all - infact i walked in afetr work the other day to find unused jonnies and lube on the side - I just started laughing -shes only 17 - hes 20 nearly but its all good for a laugh
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Bart
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oh yes! thats what we like, up the wrong un
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