Steve
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But I just cannot see the attraction in having kids, getting married etc etc
When i was 20 i wasnt interested and used to say, oh well il settle down and have kids when im 30, now im nearly 30 im still no closer to wanting it 
I look at peoples facebooks, and there lives since settling down having kids, getting married etc and despair, they dont do anything, doesnt seem like they actually have any fun in there lives and it puts me right off.
It stops people doing anything, people that would go on holidays to the ring for example, now dont because there other halves are having kids.
Im sure there is some element of attachement and joy to bringing up a child, obviously i cant relate to it because im not in that position, buts its not attractive to me at all.
I do worry that il be 40 and still not have any desire to want to settle down.
[Edited on 11-03-2011 by Steve]
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bwbw
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Know what you mean, no intention of getting married. Don't see the point, half of the marriages these days end in Divorce.
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Jambo
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It's not for everyone. There's a pressure in society to do the "norm" but if you don't want to there's nothing wrong with that 
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Steve
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i also think that as soon as you stop having fun and settle down your life starts to fly by at an even greater pace and before you know it your 50
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Nath
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Didnt read your post but I reckon you're right.
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Neo
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I hate to say this, but I agree with you Steve
Told my gf last night I have no intention to get married or have kids and she finished the sentance "in the near future"....I wasn't even going to say that
But i'm young so might change.
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RichR
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I'm not against it all in principal but at the same time I feel far to young in my head for marriage and especially kids. My God Daughter is great but I couldn't do it full time, I'm not responsible enough
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Tomnova16
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i want kids and im coming up to thirty now but i dont want them yet, so really dont know when ill want to actually have them, if that makes sense
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Scotty C
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I don't want kids mate, you're not alone. Well I already have a 5 year old 
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Ben J
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I don't want kids......
oh errrrr......
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luciaadr
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quote:
Originally posted by Nath
Didnt read your post but I reckon you're right.
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noshua
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It doesn't help being in a relationship with a 15 year old
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andy1868
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my mate in college said the same thing, afew months later he came out of the closet. true story
just something to think about y'know
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mwg
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I think exactly the same. I do want kids but not ready for it yet and not sure when I will be. Don't know if you ever are ready but that doesn't mean it won't happen!
Last year I was with a lass that had a 7 month old boy and it was fine. It didn't bother me that everything we did we had to think around him, I ended up treating him like my own kid and just got on with it. When you are put in to a situation like that you adapt to it very quickly in my experience. It's like it is built in to you, comes naturally. I actually enjoyed it which I found strange as before that happened I couldn't think of anything worse than having kids 
[Edited on 11-03-2011 by mwg]
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Hammer
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Who says you have to have kids and settle down?
I have no incling to do either as well but I don't see it as a problem. 30 is the new 21
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micra_pete
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what exactly don't you do when you have kids that you do without them? I agree life priorities change but they will anyway.
Things only get stale / boring if you let them (which I did for a couple of years)
I would hate to be a old with young kids.
Nothing wrong with you though Steve, the idea of more kids scares the shit out of me.
[Edited on 11-03-2011 by micra_pete]
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Skinz
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I pray you never have kids too tbh
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3CorsaMeal
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I think people try too hard to create a relationship or fall in love, its not real love for the majority of people, its just having the patience to put up with each other for life.
Love will just happen someday, maybe never, but too many people follow the same path in life because their parents did and it seems the correct thing to do.
there's even a order of events now, which people seem to think needs following.
Primary School
Secondary School
Uni
Maybe a year off
Get a job
Get a GF
Get a house
Get married
Have kids
Struggle
Die
all that just to do what you watched your parents do.
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mwg
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One of my mates (female) that has kids highlight of the week seems to be going to the kids playzone to meet and chat to the other mums How boring.
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micra_pete
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thats one of mine
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mwg
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mmmm MILFs
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Steve
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I think a lot of people pretend they are happy, they have children either through accident or insecurity, or e-bullying by there gf's, then they pretend that its the best thing thats ever happened to them as it would be a bit shit to say it was the worst
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3CorsaMeal
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yep, really they feel stuck with them, not realising its FOREVER AND EVER
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Steve
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But then imo this only extends to blokes as i think women are genuinely happy to be having kids
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3CorsaMeal
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yep, woman want a man who will look after them for life, men look for a woman they will be happy having sex with for life.
thats the main difference, FACT.
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