Hammer
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It's off day tbh, serious answers are rarely to be found for any subject matter.
You can get fobbed off with all the usual 'buy her flowers' 'be more spontaneous' and all the rest of it or you can actually change your own attitude and work hard to make your relationship work below the superficial 'romantic spark' bullshit.
If you feel shit now after splitting up then tell yourself not to take her for granted in the future and maybe that will quell your temper.
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Lawrah
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Its better to be straight up and tell you the truth.
I hope the link I sent you can help.
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Ian
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quote:
Originally posted by Davidkent
but i certainly have what it takes, and have the commitment there.
If I may be somewhat unsympathetic but if you split with her, you don't have what it takes. A silly split over nothing proves that you actually don't want a relationship and aren't committed to it.
The love that you feel is probably based on convention and expectation of having each other there because its normal to be in a relationship and she is the person with whom you currently feel most close. That isn't real love, that is being used to seeing someone and thinking that somehow doing something special will change you as a person as well as convince her that you have changed.
My advice would be stop looking for something that you can do - you won't find anything that will genuinely help. I could show you lots of expensive things that would give the impression of helping; gifts, dates, holidays, children; but you're just throwing money at the problem.
Decide what you want first. Bringing her on board is the second step and peripheral to your position.
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Davidkent
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Thankyou all for your help - Lawrah, I'm reading that now,
Ian - Its not a silly split as such - its a split over my temper and various other issues.. of which one is far to personal to post over the internet in my opinion..
Cheers
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jibjob
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From past experience mate i seemed to be in the same position a few times. Theres not a lot you can do other than beg her and cut out everything that upsets her. I found it hard with my temper but i knew that if i didnt stop it i would lose her. It's also a lot easier to just talk to her, find out everything that is wrong and then just start again, cut all ties, dont go to certain places, delete phone numbers/email addresses, dont watch films that make you angry, etc, etc and basically just make a decision to make a new man of yourself. In all seriousness no-one else can help you other than yourself, the anger management wont do anything that you cant do yourself and it will only help you in the ways i have said (cutting ties).
On the other hand though sometimes love isnt enough for a relationship to work and you just have to part ways no matter how hard it is. But sometimes time apart like that can help a million.
Hope this helps mate 
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Davidkent
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That helps a treat mate - As of tomorrow morning when i see her next - the new me / effort begins.
We're going for a walk / skate tomorrow and will talk things through 
Thanks mate
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Anty
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I got A text from my ex gf sayin help im outside a night club, crying come pick me up..
like a twat , becuse i love her still i go and fetch her..
i get there , after crashing in to the kerb, jump out walk round to the night club , with her too mates nothing wrong what so ever, im fumeing with rage, on my way home, nothing put the car in to a 180 spin, on the bend there is a brick wall about 12ft tall, ive only hurt my pride !!! but i feel sick
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Rob_Lee
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Not helpful but fuck her off.
Women are nothing but hassle!
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adiohead
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quote:
Originally posted by Anty
i get there , after crashing in to the kerb, jump out walk round to the night club , with her too mates nothing wrong what so ever, im fumeing with rage, on my way home, nothing put the car in to a 180 spin, on the bend there is a brick wall about 12ft tall, ive only hurt my pride !!! but i feel sick
i'm guessing you crashed because of the ice?
i hope you at least got some butt secks out of the deal
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