Sam
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And yes in reply to this thread:
- try different stuff
- wank yourself off to porn on a regular basis
- look elsewhere for sex 
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Kathryn W
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Originally posted by kz
So basically me and the missus have been together for 2 1/2 years next month... longest relationship for both of us. We've been finding the sex has really died down! Whenever something starts, we usually get distracted and end up just watching TV or something lol.
We've both got 'issues' in the relationship but we don't argue that much, we're very happy together... we don't live together or have kids etc.
Is it just something that happens!? I did read somewhere that you have more sex in the first few years of a relationship than you do for the entire rest of it.
Yes, the further into a relationship the less sex you get.. thats normal. And the sex becomes quicky's rather than fully blown sessions etc..
But if I was you i'd want to know what each others issues are... you both need to know. I'd like to know what issues my husband had so we could resolve them. I've had issue's and I have overcome them, it took time but I got there.
Also.. why do you get distracted? Is it all the time... or does it relate to one of these issues?
As others have said, its healthy to be spontaneous and 'different' every now and again... get spicy out and about...
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LeeM
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Bollocks, sex is as important as anything else. If any other part of a relationship starts breaking down people question it, I don't get why people just accept it with sex.
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Lee_fr200
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Been with the missus 8 years n married for nearly 2 of them, we were at it like rabbits till we got married, now it's usually 1-2 times a week rather than 1-2 times a day
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LeeM
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quote:
Originally posted by Lee_fr200
Been with the missus 8 years n married for nearly 2 of them, we were at it like rabbits till we got married, now it's usually 1-2 times a week rather than 1-2 times a day
Divorce her.
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Tomnova16
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Just play the rape game
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Matt L
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coming up to 3 years with the gf and hardly get any at all  hardly got any last year either  kills me at times.
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ashleh
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Coming up to 2 years, twice a week if I'm lucky but I live in Oxford while she's in Derby so not much I can do about it .
[Edited on 20-05-2012 by ashleh]
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morpheus22
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quote:
Originally posted by Cole
you get complacent(sp) when youve been with someone for a long time.
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kz
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It seems most people seem to assume it's me wanting it and her not providing... that's not always the case. She admits she hasn't been feeling sexual for quite a while now, but she does make an effort, and sometimes it's me that just can't get in the mood. It just feels like a whole lot of effort sometimes lol, and it almost seems like the case where it's a bit embarrassing and it's like, lets stop being silly and do something else
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mattk
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Been with her for 8 years, shag her once a week at least, its normaly me that cant be arsed. I work hard and just want to sleep in my spare time, apart from a weekend when I get pissed and probably cant get it up
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Daniel_Corsa
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Almost 11yrs! Get it when I want it but isn't all that often couple times a week and weekly BJ's!
If not getting it as often as you like, find a dirty ho you can go get you end away with like naughty school kids!
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Fro
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Stay single, and have friends with benefits 
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Toby
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quote:
Originally posted by kz
It seems most people seem to assume it's me wanting it and her not providing... that's not always the case. She admits she hasn't been feeling sexual for quite a while now, but she does make an effort, and sometimes it's me that just can't get in the mood. It just feels like a whole lot of effort sometimes lol, and it almost seems like the case where it's a bit embarrassing and it's like, lets stop being silly and do something else
Think your gay m8
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Toby
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quote:
Originally posted by Fro
Stay single, and have friends with benefits
In principal it'd genus, in practice not so much. I could count off on one hand birds that I have shagged and not given a fuck about no matter what I'm telling/pretending myself is the case and Tbh that was only doubled other weekend after an interesting night, amate and some mucky students
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taylorboosh
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quote:
Originally posted by Fro
Stay single, and have friends with benefits
would rather have someone i love and can spend time with 365 days a year
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AlunJ
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Have to find a friends with benefits first, don't seem to have much luck there
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john_redtop
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I've been with my partner almost 5 years we have 2 kids together the first year of our relationship we had sex just about everyday twice a day but now we hardly have it but its both of us really can never be botherd but when we do have it its good cause we ain't had it for a while. Think it happens with every relationship tbh
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Carl
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If you don't live together and its slow wait till you move in together! I'm 10 years in, would like it more, mainly her taking initiative but I mainly have to, then again when I do I never get knocked back. You find that you go through waves where you have quite a bit then have a 'dry' spell! It's all about keeping q good balance for both of you, I think sex is very important part of w relationship and my girlfriend knows this, if I felt it was getting too infrequent I'd bring it up with her.
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Jamescorsa97
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KZ I'm guessing you didn;t like the replies you got over at cliosport? haha
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John
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Did they tell him that a cambelt change was overdue and would need to be done by a specialist?
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Jambo
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Been with mine 8years, don't get "time" to do it as much as she isnt well, but still at it whenever we can.
I would deffo 100% nopt stay with a girl who didnt like sex as much as Mrs J
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Fro
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quote:
Originally posted by john-d
quote:
Originally posted by Fro
Stay single, and have friends with benefits
would rather have someone i love and can spend time with 365 days a year
Me too but not yet, and especially if I'm not completely happy. Would see it as a waste of time, but that's just me.
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Jed D
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whatever you do dont go and have sex with some other lass and catch the clap :X
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Hammer
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I prefer having a wank anyway, don't have to talk to your hand afterwards.
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