BarnshaW
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Plenty of toads .com
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pow
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Makes me wonder how many other blokes she's met up with from the internet and been bummed by if that's the case!
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Dan295
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jibjob
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To be honest theres nothing wrong with internet dating. I gave it a go after i came out of a long term relationship and met some really nice girls, even if nothing came of it. That was through POF.
It was nice to meet different people i wouldn't have known without the dating site. I meet different women all the time and have no trouble talking to them but you only meet the type of people related to the place you are in, so in a pub on a friday or saturday night they are very rarely looking for anything long term, etc. The girls i met on POF took the time to get to know me, asked questions, weren't the type of girls to jump into bed with someone and that makes a change and also better options for finding something more than a one nighter.
At the moment i'm seeing a girl i met through a friend but without Facebook probably wouldn't have got to know as she doesn't live that local and very rarely comes out where i live. Its the exact same principle that through an internet site you get to know someone before meeting up and taking it from there.
[Edited on 07-03-2012 by jibjob]
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Matty L
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Had a few one nights stands of there, sex was great,long term, no chance
Plenty of slags.com more like
[Edited on 07-03-2012 by Matty L]
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Gary
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Just had a look at the results for my area.
 i'm glad im not single! they are either heffers or bimbos!
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Chris x
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Originally posted by pow
Desperate
Some of you need a slap into reality.
Fuck Off!
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Steve
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maybe they mean plenty of fish in reference to the smell you get when you drop the draws of some of these females
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Steve
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pow can you confirm plz
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Brett
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Originally posted by Steve
maybe they mean plenty of fish in reference to the smell you get when you drop the draws of some of these females
So true
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chrisritch
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Knew pow would be in here preaching that its perfectly normal and everyone will be doing it soon
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willay
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It is quite normal though, if you look at the amount of websites there are for online dating you'll soon realise its a big market.
I'll be honest and say only a few of my friends have done well out of dating websites, a friend of mine at the moment is currently on 3-4 dating websites (yes he has problems ) and would go on anything from 1-3 dates a week meeting up with randoms.
Not to mention my mother met her partner on there and they have been together for 7+ years now.
Its all down to your own personal lives, some people come in contact with lots of people day to day so have that chance to meet someone nice and some don't.
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willay
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Originally posted by Steve
Never used one never had problems. Time would be better spent improving your skills how to act round people and maintaining a level of measured discipline around girls when you do meet one.
Going to quote this for future reference and anyone who has met Steve
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Steve
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I'll break your ducking neck
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pow
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Originally posted by Steve
pow can you confirm plz
Nope I can't.
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Ian
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It is fairly normal, I think the idea that its only for desperate people is a bit of an old thing. I know lots of normal people who use them.
I've never had success because I've never been particularly positive about writing about myself so don't get much interest but I'm quite sure some people do well out of them.
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Fro
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Originally posted by mwg
Never go looking for a girlfriend, just meet them as you go about your life like normal?
Same, met previous girlfs at thorpe park, shopping, supermarkets, and the obvious pubs/clubs. Better this way imo for socialisation skills etc.
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Brett
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Must admit, mrs mum met her fella on there. Right weirdo he is.
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emicen
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Signed up but never really finished my profile or got involved tbh.
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I'm to scared to actually meet anyone from it I think.
Don't see how its more risky meeting someone in a local location than travelling half the country to meet people off of forums really.
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willay
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Don't get me wrong it does seem weird to be 'looking' for a gf, but at least you can screen them so to speak and have some idea what they are into. Instead of meeting some bird at the pub, speaking absolute gob shite to them as you're pissed and get involved with someone you have no real connection with.
And socialisation skills, you'll get to flex them when you meet said person from whatever site you've met them off.
I'm sure plenty of weirdos with daddy issues have been met from pubs/clubs/shopping
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jibjob
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Originally posted by willay
Don't get me wrong it does seem weird to be 'looking' for a gf, but at least you can screen them so to speak and have some idea what they are into.
This is essentially the best part about internet dating and why its so popular. For people that have trouble talking to women or meet the wrong ones time after time you have the chance to get to know someone before meeting them. You can find out all of their interests, hobbies, things you have in common, etc without having the awkward drunken small talk in a crowded club or 10min meeting at a supermarket etc. Its also a good way of getting that first chance with someone that might have over-looked you otherwise.
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SetH
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I see this has generated some good Conversation albeit a lot of hypocrisy and irony in some of the replies!
Pow, Ian and Willay have made some very valid comments, cant be arsed to quote them but they echo my thoughts.
I work in IT and not only are a lot of the people older then me, they are 90% Male. Out of the 10% of Females, 9% are complete munters and the remaining 1% that are fit are in relationships or married.
Most of my life in which I am in contact with other people is spent at work. The second place I spend the most time is the Gym and its is nigh on impossible to try and engage a female in Conversation in that enivornment. I wont list the reasons and they have been covered in threads before but trust me its a no go.
On the increasingly rare occasions that I go out drinking i find myself surrounded by binge drinking females (regardless of wether its an up market establishment or dive) and you have to shout in their ears to try and have a Conversation. Bars/Clubs are one of the worst places to meet someone I think and as already mentioned they usually are not the right Women for anything long term anyway.
So what does that leave? hitting on someone in tesco's? the petrol station? handing around the shopping mall like a pedo? all of these randomly trying to chat to someone when they are going about their business is not ideal is it?
So that leaves dating Sites :
1) Girls looking for a bit of fun
2) Bimbos with no interest of meeting someoene trying to see how much attention they can get (number and frequency of messages)
3) Women in a similar situation to me (lots of their friends settled down) and have increasingly rare oppertunities to meet someone in public and thus use a dating site
4) Women whom are fed up meeting idiot lads on nights out that hit them with their very best brad pitt chat up lines and just want to meet a genuine guy that is looking for more then a shag.
I have meet Women in groups 3 and 4 and had 2 6 month relationships from POF. Ultimately did not get past the 6 Month milestone for various reasons not specific to the way we met though.
So if you spend some time to search, read profiles properly and look for common interests then there are plenty of genuine Women in groups 3 & 4 and this is currently what I am doing now.
The only way I will meet my future wifey by fate or chance is if she walks into me in the street, drops the folders she is carrying and I pick them up for her. we look into each others eyes and have an awkward but romantic moment, get chatting and exchange numbers..... but wait, that only happens in Movies 
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Brett
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Originally posted by SetH
hitting on someone in tesco's? the petrol station?
Met my mrs in a Tesco petrol station, how's that? 
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Fro
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Must have some rude females in your Gyms
Think people try to hard looking for girlfs in 'the real world' that they pressure themselves into it too much and ultimately feel like a dick/make a mess of it.
I find it better to not go out with the idea of 'I'm going shopping I have to meet someone or I'm a douche' Just go about your life and see what happens.
Not saying internet dating is a bad thing as it suits some people, just think it should be a last resort for younger people (no offence intended) as you should be developing your inter personal skills and not be worried/scared about talking to people.
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pow
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And I met my last girlfriend in a cinema lobby who I was with for 3.5 years, I just met my missus now in a different way, we went on dates, we 'connected' and now we are in a very happy relationship.
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