stubbsy05
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Had a major row last night and this morning.
I have been going out with her for the last year and a half, and we are both 19. I don't know if I really wanna stay in a relationship as I don't wanna get to committed. Kinda wanna be single and I always wanna pull when I'm out, but I don't wanna be an a*sehole and cheat.
Really finding it hard to tell her We are spending tomorrow together and I'm taking her out for a meal tomorrow night.
Anybody else had difficulties splitting up with someone. I feel so horrible.
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Nismo
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who cares your getting a flat 
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Marcus_Foster
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Mate if i was you i would end it as soon as you can for a couple off reasons.
1, the longer you leave it the harder it is to do.
2, you will argue more and hate her more.
3, you will end up cheating and hate yourself for it.
This is form experience.
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stubbsy05
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We nearly split up earlier. She was crying but I didn't feel upset.
I know that ages ago if we even spoke of splitting I was really upset.
It's so hard to split when shes so upset though.
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Marcus_Foster
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Thats there trap mate. Don't fool for it.
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Tom
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same thing, we broke up on friday (after 2 1/2 years) didn't speak at all til' tuesday when she rang me (my head was ok til' then) anyways that's the longest we've ever been without speaking and i was getting ok thinking we were over, then she rang and my head was back up ma arse, she said she knows we can't work blah then she told me she's pregnant on wednesday so I gave her one we agreed it was over she'd have abbortion jobby etc, then i started thinking how much I missed her n shit we spoke yesterday and we're gonna have some time apart to see how it goes (good timing eh...valentines day), really don't know what i want anymore
But if you don't feel strongly enuf towards her don't be sucked into to staying with her (no pun intended  ) if you don't want to matey, still young n all that.
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Robbo
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Originally posted by Tom D
then she told me she's pregnant on wednesday so I gave her one
Sorry Tombo but I'm gonna hav2 at that part again!
BTW
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Tom
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Originally posted by Robbo
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then she told me she's pregnant on wednesday so I gave her one
Sorry Tombo but I'm gonna hav2 at that part again!
BTW
Cheers mate
Dunno wots gonna happen, how u stayed happy with nat 4 so long bud, I don't think we got any trust left
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SetH
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I have been going out with her for the last year and a half, and we are both 19. I don't know if I really wanna stay in a relationship as I don't wanna get to committed > You have every right to feel like that at your age, dont feel bad about it.
Kinda wanna be single and I always wanna pull when I'm out, but I don't wanna be an a*sehole and cheat > Again this is what you should be doing when you are young i know so many people who were in long term relationships from like 18-25 or similar and 90% of them are no longer together and they regret the time they have lost and could have been having fun. From the statment about not wanting to be an arsehole and a cheat then you know that if you are together this is only going to be a question of when and not If.
It's so hard to split when shes so upset though > There is no easy way to do this except to do it ASAP. I have been in this situation and i tried to split up with someone several times but didnt each time because she started crying and i felt like an ogre. In the end i had to pack my stuff when she was at work then i left in the evening with her physically trying to keep me in the house. Trust me do it now before it gets even harder.
Last of all be honest with her, girls appreciate honesty.
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Tom
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SetH you d man 
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Robbo
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Cheers mate
Dunno wots gonna happen, how u stayed happy with nat 4 so long bud, I don't think we got any trust left
I dont know either We jus are very much in love 
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Tom
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Cheers mate
Dunno wots gonna happen, how u stayed happy with nat 4 so long bud, I don't think we got any trust left
I dont know either We jus are very much in love
for you mate
That's the thing, both of us very much are aswell, but I feel we have been too dishonest and it's prolly too late to start trying to be honest, i always think she is lying u see
Bastard girls, need to feck off
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Robbo
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She seemed a bit strange when udescribed ehr actions a while back mate... see how things pan out I suppose :S
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Robbo
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U thought of praps takin a holiday 2gether... a chance 2 get away an relax etc?
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Tom
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She seemed a bit strange when udescribed ehr actions a while back mate... see how things pan out I suppose :S
Yeah she can be a right dickhead
I would go away but i think we both need to sort our heads out first.
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stubbsy05
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Cheers people. SetH you should be an agony uncle!
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Robbo
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She seemed a bit strange when udescribed ehr actions a while back mate... see how things pan out I suppose :S
Yeah she can be a right dickhead
I would go away but i think we both need to sort our heads out first.
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SetH
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Cheers people. SetH you should be an agony uncle!
LOL in only i knew this knowledge when i was 18 would have saved me years of hassle. Still you learn from your mistakes or fools learn from their mistakes and wise men learn from fools mistakes.
From 18-24 I have 3 serious 2 year relationships one after the other, big mistake now i look back i really needed to that time to be single and to have my own space/life.
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I make mistakes and never learn from them!
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stubbsy05
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I broke up with her last night. Stayed at a mates.
She keeps phoning up and I feel so guilty. I told her that we should have a break then I can sort my feelings out. Also then I will see what its like on my own and single.
I feel like a right shit. However the fact that I have got loads of time to myself, and can do what I want now is good.
Advice?
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stubbsy05
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Oh yeah and I still have a table booked for tonight. Dunno if I can face going knowing we basically over.
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LukeGSi
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hiya fella, me thinks u did the right thing, if your heart wasnt in it then best off doing something sooner rather than. Doesnt help you feeling shite tho 
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stubbsy05
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Its a fucker that its valentines too. I feel so bad for her.
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Colin
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Singles good for a wee while but you miss consistent sex
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[Edited on 14-02-2004 by p1ummy]
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