waynep
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ok a girl im with is goint back to uni soon and i will still be here in london whilst she goes . now i hav no idea what we should do? she said she has tried a long distance thing b4 but its hard because she comes back from uni like every 3 weeks then would have to go thru the whole process again of leaving me and goin back to uni this would just be sooo terrible seeing her for a day or two then having to let her go again, i seriouly am havin touble thinkin about our future and all i can think about is saying good bye.
i wouldnt mind trying this thing where we see eachother for a day or two then she goes back but it would just get harder and harder to leave eachother and shes not prepeared to put me and herself thru this.
i know i cant stop her from goin to uni and i could even go up there quite often but we cant go on seein eachother for a few days then leaving on and off for the next 2 years.
i really want her to stay but that is impossible and im feelin like shit now and she hasnt even left yet god knows wot ill b like wen she actually does leave 
any advice would be greatly appriciated
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purple_corsa_gls
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Which uni i sshe going to?
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waynep
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Originally posted by purple_corsa_gls
Which uni i sshe going to?
this is irrellevent but its about 200 miles frim london i think 
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chris_uk
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cant you both get a flat closer?
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purple_corsa_gls
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Well it might have been relevant. i was going to suggest going up there every weekend, but thats obvioulsy irrelevant  
[Edited on 27-08-2004 by purple_corsa_gls]
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Tom
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tis a hard thing, i'd follow lee from hollyoaks progress  sorry.
Realise it must be hard, the thing that jumps out at me is mibee she wants her freedom in uni  u might make a bit of a fool of yourself making this much of a deal of it if she isn't as bothered (sorry if this isn't the case), otherwise i'd see how it goes on your own for a few weeks, u never know she might want to do the 2 days a month thing?!
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i only read the first paragraph because there's only one thing you need to know.
If you really care for each other and make things work, then you'll stay with each other whilst you're both doing different things.
No matter on the distance if you both want it to work then you will give it a go.
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waynep
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she loves goin out with her mates but would never hurt me (unless she got well pished )
so freedom at uni is definatly wot shes likes but i dont think i can cope with her leaving she has to leave as shes got no choice
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--Dave--
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time to stand up and face the music mate, like you say she's obviously going to go uni so you may as well live with it.
Why not give you and her a go? see how it works, no harm in trying. That way if it doesn't work out you can at least say to yourself that you gave it a try.
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waynep
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i dont think shes prepeared 2 try it again as she was hurt by this in the past and gave it a try already. im tryin to tell her things will b different but its hard to convince sumone who has been hurt b4 that im not guna do the same
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--Dave--
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does she even like you enough to want to try it out? sounds to me like she doesn't.
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purple_corsa_gls
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aS dAVE SAID, IF SHE REALLY LIKES YOU THEN SHE'LL GIVE IT A TRY. (sorry for caps but i cant be arse to re-write)
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Tom
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quote:
Originally posted by --Dave--
does she even like you enough to want to try it out? sounds to me like she doesn't.
Pls see my more subtly phrased post above
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--Dave--
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i never read what you post Tom.....
kidding
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waynep
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Originally posted by --Dave--
does she even like you enough to want to try it out? sounds to me like she doesn't.
from the look in her eyes mate i can honestly say shes does. i will have to convince her in other ways
BUT im too depressed for sex ! wot would u suggest there?
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--Dave--
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read my sex thread!
Take her out for dinner? A picnic somewhere? just spend some time with each other alone. Go for a walk. Watch a movie at home.
Hopefully she'll realise what she'll miss when she goes and that will make her want to be with you through uni.
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waynep
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done all that last night ^^^ but no sex .. so it has to b done tonight just need to get in the mood
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this is happening to me too, been with my girl 2 1/2 years and she is moving 200 miles away. were just gonna play it by ear. no point stressing. just see how it goes,
other wise you gonna think too much about it, confuse yourself and her and end up wihout her!
just chill! 
[Edited on 27-08-2004 by Corsa E-Tec]
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Tom
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quote:
Originally posted by corsa-crazy
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Originally posted by --Dave--
does she even like you enough to want to try it out? sounds to me like she doesn't.
from the look in her eyes mate i can honestly say shes does. i will have to convince her in other ways
BUT im too depressed for sex ! wot would u suggest there?
Just put thoughts to the back of your mind, give her some mind blowing sex, then call it 'making love'
I'd suggest sitting her down and explaining what u real feel and see if she feels the same, if she does explain that u can really see a future, and the fact she is gonna be hurt when she has to leave anyway, at least if she gives it a try she'll know if it was meant to be or not, and it may work
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--Dave--
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you went for a picnic and dinner and a walk and a movie all in one night?
You da man! 
for fucks sake if you want to be with each other then you will be and you'll have sex! It really is that black and white mate!
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waynep
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ok cheers im guna try put in back of mind and let loose hope all goes well ill let u know how it goes on sat night cos im workin sat thanks
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waynep
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quote:
Originally posted by --Dave--
you went for a picnic and dinner and a walk and a movie all in one night?
You da man!
for fucks sake if you want to be with each other then you will be and you'll have sex! It really is that black and white mate!
dinner walk movie and talk on grass in park not quite a picnic lol
sex will come tonight once again if im up for it : (
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Corsa E-Tec
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just chill mate, dont keep thinking or it will confuse you and you'll start thinking of things that you dont even need to worry about.
trust me!
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--Dave--
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good luck mate.
Relationships are never easy, especially when you get circumstances like yours.
Whatever happens, just tell yourself that it happened for a reason and that in the end it will all work out whether it be with her or another girl.
All the best mate
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quote:
Originally posted by --Dave--
read my sex thread!
Which one
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