kz
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Was just thinking about this today...
It's been over three months now since me and the girlfriend broke up, but I still think about the bitch everyday! Thing is, when I really think about things, I guess she wasn't perfect for me. I suppose she just worked this out before me!
But I did love her sooo much, and tbh, I would of stayed with her (probably) forever, unless something major happened like she cheated on me... I dunno I think some people just aim for 100% perfection where as other people are just glad with what they have as long as they're still happy  I was only in love once before her, and where as I do actually think the other girl was 'more' perfect for me, we still broke up lol, so what really is perfection?
Anyway random question but fire, be interesting to hear from both guys and girls...
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mattk
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is anyone perfect?
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radicalry00
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I think that, ultimately, the answer to your question is that nobody is perfect and there is always going to be some compromise in any relationship.
You've just got to decide what your threshold of compromise is and make things work with someone you like.
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IvIarkgraham
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quote:
Originally posted by mattk
is anyone perfect? except IvIark
thanks matt
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bubble
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i finished someone nearly 3 years ago, who was perfect. i finished her cuz i had a big ego and thought she didnt deserve me.
i put her through hell after when she tried patch us up.
ever since, nobody has compared with her at all.
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Sunz
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My girlfriend isen't perfect but in some way I like her for this reason and I love her and I don't think anything can change that.
She is very shy and can really be harsh on herself sometimes, I hate this about myself and so on but I think that's pretty normal for the females 
But I just think I don't really care, I want to be with her and will love her no matter what.
[Edited on 18-05-2009 by Jesus]
[Edited on 18-05-2009 by Sunz]
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Russ
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quote:
Originally posted by mattk
is anyone perfect?
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kz
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quote:
Originally posted by radicalry00
there is always going to be some compromise in any relationship.
Nail on the head there mate! Kept telling the ex this... she didn't agree 
Well it's cool to hear people think the same as me. I mean, we had out differences, but I was willing to change anything for her... but only if she was willing to make sacrifices for the relationship to work to... she wasn't. But that's one of the things I can look back on now and think... that just weren't right!
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Cosmo
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Im perfect.
True story.
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nathy_87
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What is perfect tbh?
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Sam
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You only keep thinking about her because you are now single and miss some stuff about her. Once you get in a new relationship with someone else you will gradually stop thinking about her, trust me! 
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eddiewhiteley
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Originally posted by 5dr corsa-3dr_polo
What is perfect tbh?
a good night out on the lash on 27th may and united winning the european cup.
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l15ter
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needs picture 
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Andy Stocker
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They say nobody is perfect. Im a nobody, therefore i'm perfect
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stubbsy05
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Nobody is perfect.
What your not telling us is the reason you split up? If she has treated you like shit and split up so she could have some fun etc, then you should not be a mug and be walked over.
I think if you get on with someone, and everyting is great then just go with it. Compromise is needed sometimes.
Sometimes the fittest women of the bunch can turn out to be the most boring and crap in the sack!
I'm one for very much doing what makes me happy and live for the day. Don't sit there and think if I have a future with someone etc. Things change everyday, and these things are stuff you never see coming!
[Edited on 19-05-2009 by stubbsy05]
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Jakey
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quote:
Originally posted by stubbsy05
Nobody is perfect.
Nobody is perfect, im a nobody, therefore i am perfect.
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l15ter
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quote:
Originally posted by Jakey
quote:
Originally posted by stubbsy05
Nobody is perfect.
Nobody is perfect, im a nobody, therefore i am perfect.
Andy Stocker has already done that
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PhilC
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Nobody is perfect, but there is nothing wrong with looking for the perfect fit in a relationship.
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jibjob
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IMO i dont think you ever find a "perfect" person.... you find someone that makes you happy and a perfect relationship.
comprimise is the biggest part of any relationship thats why most dont work. the rules must be the same for both people. none of this "i can do it but you cant" stuff!
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Neo
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How about...defining perfect as the person who in your eyes and your eyes only is perfect. I think i am very lucky, i feel my gf is pretty much perfect. Gives me the space i need yet shows she needs me back, beautiful and very sexy, fun in the bedroom, enjoys the same stuff etc. However like all girls she gets moody and does things i dont like.
The good massively outweighs the bad though, and i think that is how you have to look at it.
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Colin
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I do
No but seriously if you think your going to find someone perfect & settle down with them good luck to you, you'll be looking for a while!! 
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myke
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there's a difference between someone being perfect and 2 people being perfectly matched or perfect for each other.
it's peoples imperfections that define them, and certain imperfections can actually be that persons most attractive qualities.
my girlfriend is a clumsy wotsit, but i love her more for it because it's part of who she is. I definately wouldn't try and change that.
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kz
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Yeah I'm not saying someone can be 'perfect' as such... every girl I've ever met that meant something always ended up in arguements 
We even sat down to talk about what we thought we could both improve on... she didn't like that apparently I never had time for her, didn't hang out with her mates all the time, and didn't ring her every day I didn't see her sounds like she wanted more of me but then just dumped me over text after 18 months!  biiitch.
Me personally didn't like her smoking, the fact she wanted to cover her body in tattoos... and ultimately wanted more fun in the bedroom lol, she was very un-willing
See loads of issues just off the top of my head but my look on relationships is that if I love someone, I'll fight to make it work, but I guess there's only so much one relationship can take!
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Eck
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There is no such thing as perfect. If you were absolutely perfect for each other and never argued, you'd eventually get bored. It's the differences that actually keep things interesting!
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Butler
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I havent answered the question. I think perfection cant be defined in a person it is only relative to how much you really want to be with someone. If you feel you want to be then do it, if you have doubts then walk away.
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