boylers11
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Spoken to a couple of mates about this, but wanted some opinions on here if anyone’s got a minute.
Long story short – my girlfriend teaches at a university, she said as soon as she started the job that one of the 2nd year lads was nice and that all the girls liked him (staff and students).
-She went to a department ball 2 weeks ago (without me). Her friend was walked home by one bloke (they hooked up) and the ‘hot’ bloke mentioned above walked my missus home and they were up until 6am chatting, nothing else (I believe this part).
-She went on another uni night out this Saturday (i expressed my extreme annoyance that she was going, but she was determined to go) and ended up going back to sleep with him. It was apparently very uneventful (a few shoves and a squirt type thing) then she left yesterday morning and told me everything as soon as she got home.
Obviously we’re both gutted (me more so obviously). We’ve been together 4 years with no other cheating. I’ve moved away from my friends and family and got a new job to be with her.
90% of me thinks get rid, 10% says give it another chance as she’s been honest.
Any opinions/advice would be great.
Thanks.
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Ben G
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this shit costs £12.50 mate
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Ojc
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Originally posted by Ben G
this shit costs £12.50 mate
Sorry but 
If shes cheated, move on. She isn't worth your time. End of story.
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Hammer
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Kick in the stones.
I doubt it will ever be the same again and any attempt to continue on as normal would be punctuated by fallouts and the cheating being dragged up time and again.
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Ben G
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no way she was up until 6am just chatting with a guy she liked. the bloke obviously wanted to fuck so don't let her feed you bullshit.
i'd just leave and start over with another girl who won't cheat on you.
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Whittie
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At the end of the day, if you stay with her... She'll still be in her job, he'll still be there and you're constantly going to be thinking about it.
Get rid now, before she does it again in another 4 years and its too late to build a relationship with anybody else.
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chrisritch
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Fuck her off tbh.
Is the fact he was a shit fuck supposed to make you feel better?
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Tomnova16
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plenty of decent women out there, shes a cunt
http://www.lemass.co.uk/ for all your automotive/bodyshop needs
Located in Chalfont st Peter
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adiohead
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Should have gone with her tbh, it's your own fault.
Just got to blink and they're in bed with another man.
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Russ
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This is why I'm gay
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boylers11
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She barely even invited me (I wouldn't have wanted to go anyway). 4 fucking years down the pan, gutted.
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Matt.H
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Get rid.
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BarnshaW
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get rid, once a cheat always a cheat
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Butler
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I can't comprehend what it feels liketo be cheated on, ive always imagined it to be horrible though.
Personally I think someone like that doesnt deserve another chance however strong your feelings are for them, if they cheated its just not meant to be.
Its not easy but you just have to keep convincing yourself its for the best and put mates first.
What a bitch.
[Edited on 14-03-2011 by Butler]
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adiohead
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Originally posted by boylers11
She barely even invited me (I wouldn't have wanted to go anyway). 4 fucking years down the pan, gutted.
In future you must insist in going to these shit events just to make sure they're not balls deep in balls.
Tell her to fuck off and let everyone know she is a whore and, most importantly, post any naked pictures you have on here in revenge.
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mwg
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Gutted for you mate but get rid. You will never be able to trust her the same again.
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mwg
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quote:
Originally posted by adiohead
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Originally posted by boylers11
She barely even invited me (I wouldn't have wanted to go anyway). 4 fucking years down the pan, gutted.
In future you must insist in going to these shit events just to make sure they're not balls deep in balls
He should be able to have a girlfriend that can be trusted to go to things like that and not drop her knickers tbh. Shouldn't have to chaperone her to things to make sure she doesn't cheat.
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pow
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*gallop gallop gallop* yyyyeeeee hawwww I'm here on my high horse.
Once a cheat, always a cheat, get shot of her.
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pow
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You can't think of it as 4 years down the pan though, you must have had some good times that you can look back on and think it was worth it at the time. Sometimes things just work out.
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emicen
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There's a lot of truth in it when they say men need a location, women need a reason. Sorry but it sounds premeditated and its only the sexual disappointment that's made her backtrack. Will the next guy not satisfy her also?
Trust is a relationship's virginity, or heiman really to be anatomically specific. Once broken, that's it. Spend enough time and money and it can be rebuilt, but it will never be the same and when it inevitably gets broken again it'll be an even bloodier mess than the first time.
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Russ
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Exactly what Matty G said.
If you have to accompany her around, you have issues, or you have problems in your relationship
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adiohead
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quote:
Originally posted by mwg
He should be able to have a girlfriend that can be trusted to go to things like that and not drop her knickers tbh. Shouldn't have to chaperone her to things to make sure she doesn't cheat.
All women need watching.
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mwg
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thats some deep shit right there emicen
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Russ
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quote:
Originally posted by mwg
thats some deep shit right there emicen
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A1EX
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sorry to say but 'up til 6am chatting' and 'very uneventful few shoves and a squirt' is complete bs, she's just saying that to make you feel better.
Tell her you'll take her back set up a nice romantic evening and have her happen to walk in on you with another girl 
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