Craig6682
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My girlfriend phoned me early hours and told me she is pregnant. I just didn't know what to say, i was asking her how it happened etc as we were careful. I've been up all night just thinking about it but i really dunno what to do. I just don't have the time to for a baby, i don't even think i could afford to keep a baby. I'm going to go around to hers and tell her i will stand by her as it is the right thing to do. It's just such a big shock!
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willay
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Tell her you don't want a baby and how you can't afford it etc, you never know she might not even want it then its off to the family planning clinic i think and get a slot with the doctor el fork. Sure she wasnt pissed when she phoned you?
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Craig6682
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quote: Originally posted by willay
Tell her you don't want a baby and how you can't afford it etc, you never know she might not even want it then its off to the family planning clinic i think and get a slot with the doctor el fork. Sure she wasnt pissed when she phoned you?
But this i a baby we are talking about, i don't want her to get rid of it and no she wasn't pissed.
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willay
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Well its a big descison mate, a baby could fuck things up for a while if you are young. How old are both of you?
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Sam
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quote: Originally posted by Boyrac3r
My girlfriend phoned me early hours and told me she is pregnant. I just didn't know what to say, i was asking her how it happened...
Did no-one talk to you about the birds and the bees then? LMAO! 
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willay
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Sam - LOL!
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Nismo
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well its a big decission you have to make ,
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willay
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use the fork luke.
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Craig6682
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I'm 21 and she is 19. It is a big decision, i really need to chat to her. Fuck work and uni today. I'm going to go and see her. I think she is going to be more fucked up in the head than me the way she was talking last night. I'm just gonna get a shower and then i'll go and see her once her parents have left for work.
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Nismo
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its a major life fcuk up , happened to a mate.
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Craig6682
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quote: Originally posted by Nismo
its a major life fcuk up , happened to a mate.
What did you do?
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Nismo
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me i did nothing, apart from point and laughed at my mate for being sooooo stupid,
however he sufers by now having no money as hes paying child maintence witch is a fortune.
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Craig6682
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Oh. I going to see her now
quote: Originally posted by Nismo
me i did nothing, apart from point and laughed at my mate for being sooooo stupid,
however he sufers by now having no money as hes paying child maintence witch is a fortune.
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Pablo
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I was told this but she did another test and she ain't... U gotta make ur mind up if ur ready for this and decide together.
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mav
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quote: Originally posted by Boyrac3r
quote: Originally posted by Nismo
its a major life fcuk up , happened to a mate.
What did you do?
Get a grip......
A baby does not fuck up your life..Yes it changes it..
If you are in love with her and get on well Will be a good thing..Maybe come too soon but get over it.
Does not cost as much as you think either and you get money from Gov.
Need to sit down and have a long talk eoth her.
My missus and I tried for 5 years to have a baby.....
Yes it's a shock to the system but when he/she comes you will never look back...
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Shelly
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Why does every lad have such a negative opinion about babies and their girlfriends getting pregnant.
Bringing a baby into this world is probably one of the most amazing and special things which could ever happen.
I can't wait.
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mav
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well said Shelly..
We went through the mill to have one..
2 Miscarraiges...........1 ectopic pregnancy...When Kieran came along it was
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Natz
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I want babies too, but not now
im only 19 at the end of the day, like your mrs boyracer.
i want to get a house, nice car, settle down etc etc before i have a baby
like you, i could never afford one now. i live with my parents and i want to sort my carrer.
she should know what you want to do, after all its your life too and if your not ready then tell her. she deserves to know and make her decision on what the both of you think.
be honest with her, as relationships dont work without honesty and trust.
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Shelly
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Being late/thinking you might be pregnant when you havent planned it is really scary, so give her loads of support, dont make her feel like shes on her own.
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Nismo
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quote: Originally posted by Shelly
Why does every lad have such a negative opinion about babies and their girlfriends getting pregnant.
Bringing a baby into this world is probably one of the most amazing and special things which could ever happen.
I can't wait.
the reason i have a negitive point is cus my mates never out no more its put a stop to having a laugh , going out, hes only 20 , i mean he should be out having fun not stuck at home all the time .
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Shelly
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we all have to grow up sometime, some sooner than others.
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Nismo
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yeah i know but theres plenty of time in life for that sort of stuff.
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Shelly
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These things happen.
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avenger
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i dont think its right to force our personal opinions of the whole abortion/keeping it topic upon them. they have to decide for themselves what is best and what they think is right
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